Happy Lady's Bits Day

International Women’s Day or Day of the Woman, who freaking knows. What does it mean to be a woman? Aside from the obvious vagina and breasts….. My earliest memories of knowing what it is to be an ideal woman… OK wait.. Weird creep just rang my doorbell… not answering so go away. The two large dogs barking should be a clear indication of that. And let’s not bring up the fact that you looked right into my eyes as you walked by on the sidewalk and know I’m inside. Now as I wrote this, initially I’m like this is what they’ll find when I go missing… hahaha just kidding, my paranoid reaction, is exactly why I hopefully won’t go missing or get abducted, or murdered. Drives my husband nuts.

 Now to what it is to be a woman. From a very young age I have known that I am here on this Earth to be possibly taken advantage of. I am a woman. My father was our protector but dare a mother fucker to mess with my mom. So as intimidating and genuinely a strong woman my mom is, she still is a woman and men still think she’s put on this Earth to be taken advantage of. She'd show them differently, but they'd still try. I’d like to say my caution kept me free from harm and becoming victimized but unfortunately even with being diligent, I’ve been victimized. So I digress, what is my first memory of what a successful or ideal woman is. At a young age, we are told how pretty we are. So ideally I envisioned beauty as an ideal woman’s quality. “Be nice”, girls are nice and cordial… what is the saying “sugar and spice and everything nice”? She should be successful in her chosen career. She should be generous with her time, herself. Beauty. I exercise, I enjoy dressing up, I like applying make up. I love new clothes and shoes. I am what I’m “supposed” to be, I work at my appearance and love that my husband still finds me attractive. Now that being said, I don’t love the unsolicited dick pics that are sent to me on my public instagram page for my business. What about a good snap filter and make up photos makes men think I want to see the disappointment or pride between their legs? I ignore the messages and delete them, or for now on, show my friends for giggles. I woke up one saturday morning a few weeks ago, see I have a message on my IG, with business girl excitement, thinking “Oh yes!! An order”. Immediately takes a dark turn when I see the gleaming glory of an erect penis. I yelp and delete… like literally a yelp came out and deleted (I did not go on "Yelp".com and look for reviews on Tomd6070). Went on about the day and went to brunch. I make a quick joke to my Florida group text about the pic and saying it belonged to a fella who antagonized one of my girls. Immediately the girls in the mode of good fun, round about ask to see it. (can’t I deleted out of fear, annoyance, disgust, just bad tired girl waking up decision) Then at brunch my friend brings up my IG and I mention the pics I get, and stated that I indeed was the recipient of this fella's  bad choice just that morning. And immediately our friend turns and says “ Wait… you deleted it? didn’t you know you were going to brunch today? “ . So there any guy reading this blog, which why that would happen I have no clue, but here it is. Send a dick pic and we just use it to laugh at you. No bitch I know is sitting around like “ oh yes, I wish I could just get a sweet picture of that penis today” , face it fellas, it is 99% just a utilitarian appendage for us. Now back to brunch… my best friend whom I love dearly, states that “no wonder” I get those kinds of messages, because of my outfit. Hahahaha… the rest of the table joins in on the rape culture conversation and states that it’s not too far from saying that a woman deserved a sexual assault because of her outfit. Now 100% she didn’t mean it in a negative way, I know she didn’t but she knows as being a woman, it’s true. And it’s fucked up. Why can’t I just get the girl compliments on my cute outfit and shoes? I am building a brand and part of my brand is to be trendy and attractive, unfortunately she is correct, that men are pieces of shit and only using my images to suit their needs to fulfill. Is it ok? NOPE. But society tells men it’s ok to objectify women and use them for their needs. Or is it society? Is it nature? To procreate and keep the species alive, we have to have sex. So is it just nature that the male wants to jam his penis into women’s vaginas, lots of womens vaginas. Who knows, but in the end we should hold some of the power in who gets into our vaginas virtually or in reality. Also it comes to my knowledge that men are pieces of shit generally, and although I am comedic at times and into baseball, please don’t think these are lead ins to hit on me. I am married to an amazing man who is not a POS and just NO. I see you and I know. We all do. Now be “nice”, feel like I was leading into that with the end of my last thought. I delete those pictures. I don’t send back a “kindly go fuck yourself”, like my cousin’s wife did to a woman who chose her fb post to be a general cunt. Which honestly I’ve always liked her to begin with, but she brought it up to a high five level, with the kindly comment. I just duck and dive. I don’t want to be mean, or upset someone who I don’t know and am cautious. I don’t want to agitate crazy and any moron that sends such images to someone clearly isn’t completely sane. I’ve participated in fb arguments and generally they always end with the person proving themself to be wrong, and I get tiny satisfaction from it, but know in the end they took zero from it, even when they’ve proved themselves wrong. For instance, got into an argument with someone who was hysterical over legalization of marijuana. She stated that drunk driving is the biggest cause of auto accidents and death. I stated that although it is indeed a huge problem, distracted driving would be the biggest cause of accidents. She then said, after calling me an idiot that doesn’t know anything about car accidents, she had to wait a minute to write more because the light turned green and her kid was crying in the backseat. BOOM> there you have it, her agitation over marijuana was so needing addressing on a fb post that she’d put her kids’ lives and other people’s lives in danger by texting and driving…. Or posting and driving. Did that moron take anything from what I said? No, because within a minute of me stating that she should put the phone down until she was safe at home, she had a comeback. MORON. So anyway, back to being nice. I am nice. I am nice to everyone I meet. I won’t open the door for strangers, but I’ll smile at you, if face to face on the street. I’ll also keep an eye on my exits wherever I am and have an escape strategy. But I’ll be nice. I’m also conditioned at work to smile and hear empathize, address, and task to fix the dissatisfaction. So earlier a friend was appalled at a person’s shit behavior at a medical aid clinic to the staff. She addressed the woman face on. I was indeed impressed, she was off duty and addressed it. What does this woman take from it ? Nothing probably. What did my friend take from it? Satisfaction at getting what has been on her mind her entire career, and not being able to address it. If you haven’t figured out, she’s a nurse. The team on the other side of the door fist bumped and applauded her for standing up for them. But that’s just it. Medical professionals, really anyone in the service of others, is told to just stand back and take it, just eat shit and pretend it’s filet mignon. But as I commented it occured to me, was it the nurse in me since I was 19 that caused me to be so cynicle as to say “she still didn’t learn a thing” , or was it just being a woman makes me see the dirty in people and distrust that any “real” interaction happened with the beast that was hollering at the staff. I’m a woman. I dread going to any male driven situation. For example buying a car, going to mechanic, going into a hardware store, etc. I know the moment I walk in, I’m visualized as a target, as gullable. They plot their attack and go in. I hate it. I handle it, but I hate it. My dad used to take the car lots of times, to the mechanic for my mom. I would LOVE if my husband would do the same, but a part of me also enjoys proving to the boys that I’m no fool. I am not car stupid. I helped a boyfriend in high school rebuild a 65 Mustang. I changed my own oil until the cars were being built to basically force you to put her up on a lift to even get near the filter… also hated bringing the oil to the gas station to get rid of it. I also bought a Karman Ghia and replaced that alternator with only a strong arm assist from a local friend because I couldn’t physically lift it out. He laughed at me when I asked, thinking for sure, I hadn’t even opened the trunk yet to start working on it, and when we got to my car, there was my waterpump already out and sitting on the cement. Anyway, I’m not completely in the dark when it comes to manly things like cars and tools. Although courteous, our dad taught us how to mow lawns, shovel driveways, and use a phillips head screwdriver. My mom is a strong take no shit woman and I gained that knowledge too. Now alot of women don’t know car stuff, or baseball. I respect you bitches too. I don’t care what your specialty, you got one and probably about 87,936,992,748 others too. We are multi taskers, we are multi faceted beings. We are amazing when you think about it. We can be nuturing but also badass. Why designate a day or a month? It’s the same with Black History month… “month”? It should be 365 ½ days a year!!! WTF? We should be celebrating all that black people give and have given, every damn day!! I feel like as an African American, they should be disgusted that some fool feels they need a month designation. But unfortunately African American history is largely left out of standard curriculum. I saw a photo the other day of a little girl entranced by Michele Obama’s portrait, so much she wouldn’t turn away for a picture. She was mystified and taken. There should be more images, more movies, more of everything celebrating such a huge part of us as Americans. But for now, a month is a focus to bring it in people’s faces more. It is a thing and it does bring education in people’s faces more prominently and therefore it is empowering, I suppose. I don’t know. I’m not black. And I’m sure the community is divided on the issue too. But in the end I suppose some positivity is that… some posititivity. I want MORE positivity. I’m greedy that way. So “lady bits day”, good for us. But how about we start with not treating anyone inferior or different. How about we don’t need months, days, or weeks to celebrate our diversity and strengths? Doubt I’ll ever live to see that world, but I would like to work toward it. Does this mean i’ll go march next women’s march? No probably not, because it really gets no where. I will use my votes to promote what I believe in ( and no I didn’t vote for Hil, I have to live with me, and I couldn’t, if I voted for her vagina despite politics). But I do participate and vote to effect change.

Every day we should stand up and fight for women's rights in the world. Women are being mutilated, kidnapped, raped, and murdered world wide daily. Countries try the women for being raped. Countries don't prosecute criminals that violate women. Girls are being abducted and abused. Why do we continue as a country supporting these awful places? There's places that exist, that demean and insist on female mutilation. Stop supporting it and saying it's ok by importing and exporting with these countries. Male circumcision is hardly comparable to what happens to a woman when "circumcised ". Stay educated and fight for women every day. It's insane to say that in 2018 we still need to fight for women to not be murdered but yet here we are.  Sign petitions vote for politicians and policies that support our rights. Just. Do. Something. Be the change you want. If my discomfort with being marginalized is anything, this.... this is EVERYTHING. Stand up and shout it from the mountains EVERYDAY. Not just a day the United Nations made up to make themselves feel better about their middle aged plump selves for the acknowledgement but do actually nothing.  Ivanka T tweets: "Today we come together in recognition of women at home & around the globe. We celebrate women’s achievements, past & present, & pledge to empower women to reach their full economic potential for generations to come. When women thrive, we ALL succeed. #InternationalWomensDay". ----

"economic potential", what in the actual f? I am at my economic potential and my male counterparts are at theirs too, only their potential is set higher. Hey how about we stand up and actually do something for women, in honor of women? Stop trading with countries that enforce laws that are anti woman.  Stop allowing pay scales to be differentiated by sex. Do better. Demand more .

Now real quick onto women’s empowerment, can we address how Justin T basically stole “Dirty” from Christina A. with this “Filthy” song? Number 1-- the name… number 2-- basically the same darn song musically. WTH… ok… back on topic…. I feel like maybe we just celebrate eachother more, and boost one another more for lady’s bits day or whatever it is. We, as women, can be eachother’s worst enemy and be catty and shitty. Try better, I say. And take ownership of “cunt” and “pussy”, its our twats and that’s all I got to say about that (sorry mom). I put out good and positivity. I would love it in return, but honestly expect none. I’m rarely disappointed in that way. But in the end I can go to bed at night knowing I put out the best of me, and didn’t send anyone random pictures of my reproductive organs.   

yea that's a wedding ring on my finger